WHY WOMEN HAVE AFFAIRS
Not every situation is alike, but there are common reasons why women have affairs. Firstly, it can be hard for women to figure out who they are outside of their roles as wife or mother.
Secondly, women can get pulled in a lot of directions. It can be hard to justify putting energy toward self discovery or exploring what might makes life more meaningful. It's common for women to be juggling a lot of domestic plates in the air in addition to a full time career.
Women tend to hold a lot of information in their heads: staying on top of doctor appointments, managing the social calendar, and knowing what gifts to buy, and for whom. They coordinate household tasks, and chances are that they do a larger percentage of the housework. It can be exhausting.
Affairs can make a woman feel like she's steering her own ship and has something that is ALL HERS.
UNDERPINNINGS OF AN AFFAIR
Women who have affairs, or who are thinking about having an affair, often feel:
- Stifled by roles of mother or wife
- Overwhelmed by managing all of the details of a household
- Frustrated by doing the lion's share of housework
- Resentful about being in charge of the social calendar
- Disengaged, unappreciated or unnoticed by their partner
- A lack of vitality and resigned to a life that doesn't make them feel alive
- Despondent, or discouraged by ability to change anything
We're walking contradictions, seeking safety and predictability on one hand and thriving on diversity on the other.” ~ Esther Perel
DO THE WORK: EXPLORE CONFLICTED FEELINGS & HIDDEN DESIRES
Focusing on yourself and doing individual therapy is one of the best ways to process conflicted feelings and explore hidden desires.
You deserve some time to get more connected to yourself. Reach out to see what therapy can do!