PERFECTIONISM Someone very wise once pointed out to me that perfectionism had set my life up so that I was failing 80% of the time. 80%! That means that I was succeeding only 20% of the time, and spending a lot of time feeling like a “failure.” She suggested that I set my life up to […]
Critical Inner Voice
OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE, AKA THE BULLY Have you noticed that you have a critical inner voice that is always talking? I don’t mean a “you’re not mentally stable” kind of inner voice; just the normal “everybody has one” kind of inner voice. Don’t believe me? Just get quiet for a moment and you’ll hear it … […]
What is Codependency?
WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY? Melody Beattie is the queen of the codependency realm. She started writing about codependency in 1987, with her groundbreaking book Codependent No More, and has written a slew since. She’s been sharing writing about this stuff for a long time now. It’s amazing to imagine the number of people she has helped with […]
Love Languages
LOVE LANGUAGES Gary Chapman determined that there are 5 different ways that people express love, and more importantly, how they like to receive love! He thinks of them as love languages and dubbed them as follows: Word of Affirmation Word of Affirmation Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, […]
Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings
Dealing with Discomfort We’ve been socialized around feelings, we have learned to love the “good” stuff and hate the “bad” stuff. So it makes sense that most of us aren’t very good at dealing with discomfort, vulnerability, or uncomfortable feelings! Uncomfortable feelings are like beachballs that you try to keep under the water. They are […]
