HOW WE WORK
Our work together will shine a compassionate light on relationship patterns that can negatively impact the quality of your life. As individuals we often replicate unhelpful patterns and dynamics from our families of origin and bring them into our adult relationships with our partners, our friends, and even our colleagues. When you identify relationship patterns it empowers you with a choice: keep those old patterns … or create new ones that will be more useful.
PATTERNS: The first thing we do in our work together, is get some insight into your relationship patterns. Not much can change if you don’t identify the patterns that aren’t working, so it’s at the beginning for a reason! Together we explore your family of origin (the family you were raised in) and identify relationship patterns that might be getting in your way. Maya Angelou summed it up when she said, “When you know better, you do better!”
PROCESS: There is a lot to be said for experiencing the very real emotions that often accompany insight; it is important to grieve the past. As the Sufi poet Rumi said, “The wound will not heal unless given witness. The shadow that follows us is the way in.” Emotional wounds might hurt when getting cleaned, but often cleaning the wound is necessary in order to heal properly. Therapy is a safe place for this healing process.
PRACTICE: Now comes the fun part! This is when you get to start practicing new skills and doing things differently so that you can get the positive outcomes you want. We are your accountability coaches, sending you out in your world to practice, and then de-briefing together when you come back. We will encourage you, as well as gently challenge you, every step of the way while you hone your new relational skills.
TOGETHER, WE CAN GET YOU MORE CONNECTED TO YOURSELF, AND ON THE PATH TO THE QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS THAT YOU DESERVE.
Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen."
~ Brené Brown