HOW WE WORK
Our work together will shine a compassionate light on relationship patterns that can negatively impact the quality of your life. As individuals we often replicate unhelpful patterns and dynamics from our families of origin and bring them into our adult relationships with our partners, our friends, and even our colleagues. Therapy helps you identify relationship patterns and empowers you with a choice: keep those old, unhelpful patterns … or work with a therapist to create new ones that will be more useful!
PATTERNS: The first thing we do in our work together, is get some insight into your relationship patterns. Not much can change if you don’t identify the patterns that aren’t working, so it’s at the beginning for a reason! Together we explore your family of origin (the family you were raised in) and find relationship patterns that might be getting in your way.
Maya Angelou summed it up beautifully when she said, “When you know better, you do better!”
PROCESS: There is a lot to be said for experiencing the very real emotions that often accompany insight; it is important to grieve the past. Emotional wounds might hurt when getting cleaned, but often cleaning the wound is necessary in order to heal properly. Therapy is a safe place for this healing process.
As the Sufi poet Rumi said, “The wound will not heal unless given witness. The shadow that follows us is the way in.”
PRACTICE: Now comes the fun part! This is when you get to start practicing new skills and doing things differently so that you can get the positive outcomes you want. We are your accountability coaches: we will encourage you, as well as gently challenge you, every step of the way while you hone your new relational skills.
If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. ~ Abraham Maslow